Indian culture and love relationships
Shhh… it’s not something to say out loud
We all love movies with happy endings, romantic scenes, and couples that always make it to the end. But, do you know that in Indian culture, a love relationship is taboo? Society clearly thinks that a boy and a girl can’t and shouldn’t be together. Parents hush their children, and some parents even beat them if they get caught having an affair. They think that it brings disgrace to their families.
And all of this happens because of Indian culture.
Well, I’M NOT SAYING THAT Indian culture is bad or something.
In fact, I think that Indian culture has connections, respect, and love. But the love part is restricted to family only. Even in the upscale parts of the country, people often hide their relationship from their parents because they already know the end result of telling their parents.
Now, if you’re a foreigner, this might sound bizarre to you, but if you’re an Indian, you might find some relevance while reading this post.
Sadly, Indian culture and love relationships are always on a rough patch with each other.
Why is that? Simple. because of society.
Parents are so pressured to maintain an image in their society that they forget their children’s happiness. For them, getting married in the same caste is much more important than finding a compatible partner. They’ve got so much pride in their image that it often blinds them. And their children take the toll.
I’ve seen many girls around me being forced to marry an unknown person of the same caste and religion. Even though they had found a partner for them, their parents forced them to marry another guy who met the standards of their family. And this all happened because they had an image to maintain.
And it’s heartbreaking to see these girls going through the struggles of adjustments. A girl’s parents do say that they’ll support her if she marry the guy they’ve selected for her. But when she needs it the most, that support never reaches her after marriage. So now she has non-supportive in-laws with an incompatible husband and parents who don’t want to listen to her. She is literally thrown into the unbearable shackles of life from which she can’t get out.
And if some of the kids do convince their parents and if anything happens in the future, like divorce or misunderstandings between a couple, they’re blamed for having married the person of their choice.
Why can’t a person choose his/her life partner? After all, his/her live is at stake. He/she should be married to his/her choice.
A good partner can make your life heaven, but a bad one can make your life worse than hell.
Even parents know that, but they’ll never let their children have a happy ending as long as society prevails. As society, and by that I mean relatives, neighbourhood will keep on reminding them that they couldn’t control their children.
So, to have a successful relationship that meets a happy ending, youth not only struggle with commitments and understanding with their partners, but they also struggle with disgrace, fear of being caught, mocking from relatives and, the worst part, convincing their parents in order to survive their relation till the end.
